Makes Sense To Me

wanderfulways:

This line has taken me a lot of growing up to understand & I think I’m still understanding it. I’m going to try super-quick analysis:

If I’m with someone & they want to go travel the world. I can’t stop them. They should go. 

If I love someone & they’re half a world away on an Australian beach on New Year’s night with fireworks overhead, their whole life ahead of them & a beautiful or amazing travel-friend sitting beside them who means something to them or a random person who means nothing to them. & they kiss. & they have sex. & the night sticks in their head for the rest of their life or they forget it the next day. & they move on to the next country. and they come home to me. I can’t stop them. They can do that.

Do this automatically make me not love them? It doesn’t. It might make me want to not love them, but it doesn’t force me to not love them.

Does it take away “something special” from our relationship? Not neccesarily.

Am I condoning any form of cheating (short or long distance)? No.

Am I letting them be free? be young? be youthful? collect memories? feel every sensation of a moment? Collect memories since that’s all we ever have should we end up old & alone? Be able to live a life of “oh wells” rather than “what ifs”? Avoiding the resentment and regret of “what could have been”? Yes.

Would I necessarily want to know?  No.

Would it be different if we were married and/or had children or had an exclusivity agreement before they left? Yes.

Am I making sense?